Am I Bisexual?

Question:

I’m a teen girl and I have had a boyfriend for two years now whom I think I love (I know all teens go through the thought of whether they love someone or not) however my problem is I don’t know if I am bisexual….I have never really thought about it, I think maybe because I’m a little afraid of the idea of it…I look at girls and I think I might feel the same way as I do about guys, only I have never Kissed a girl nor have I ever had a girlfriend. This has been on my mind forever and I really just need help, I want to know who I am, I want to stop thinking about it….Inside I’m not against the idea of liking girls but I don’t know what I would do if I finally discovered it…Please I would love your help!

 

Answer:

Hello sammoore7777:

Being a teenager can be trying in the best of times. You say that you may be in love with your boyfriend of two years.  Now you are questioning whether or not you may be bisexual. You also express being unsure of how you would feel about discovering that you may like both boys and girls. You have thought about this for a while and I am glad you contacted AskTrevor for help. Many people know from early childhood what sexual orientation they are, for some it comes later. This is a question only you can answer give yourself time.

Sexual orientation is usually discussed in terms of three categories: heterosexual (having emotional, romantic, or sexual attractions to members of the other sex), gay/lesbian (having emotional, romantic, or sexual attractions to members of one’s own sex), and bisexual (having emotional, romantic, or sexual attractions to both men and women).  Consider thinking of both boys and girls in the terms just described. Do you have emotional, romantic, or sexual attractions about just boys or just girls or both.  Who fills your fantasies?  This may be just consideration or an indication of sexual orientation.  It’s OK if you don’t have the answer to these questions right now.  Whatever your answer is you need to understand you are not alone or the only one and it is nothing to be afraid of.

There are websites you can turn for more information. Look for a Pflag in your area www.pflag.org . On http://www.bisexual.org you’ll find a lot of helpful information on bisexuality. If you click on resources, then bisexuality-general information, then “Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG” you can find information that may help. Check out Advocates for Youth at www.advocatesforyouth.org start here http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/topics-issues/glbtq/606?task=view. There is also About.com GLBT Teens http://gayteens.about.com/.  Perhaps you can turn to a close friend or family member and discuss things with them.  If you need support or just want to talk The Trevor Project is here for you.  Check out www.trevorspace.org it’s a safe place where you can network with others who might have the same issues and questions you have. There is Trevor Chat www.thetrevorproject.org/chat and The Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor. You can always write back to AskTrevor.  We are always here for you.

Regards

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