Cloudy with a chance of gayness

Question:

I am bi curious and have never been in a relationship with a guy or a girl.
I do not know if I like men or women.
I find guys attractive like navel up.
I find girls attractive too.
Personsonally I can find anyone attractive but think all genitalia is a bit gross.

Letter submitted by: Anonymous

Answer:

Dear Anonymous,

Thanks for reaching out to us! It’s totally normal for guys and gals to be curious about their sexuality whether they have experience or not. Remember that sexuality involves a  wide range of physical, emotional and romantic attraction to someone else but it’s never always a clear cut. And don’t even worry about thinking that genitalia is gross, you are not alone on that.

Sexuality is never always one or the other, it may be easy to categorize people but that is often inaccurate. Some people figure out their sexuality right away while some people take their whole lives to understand their own sexuality; there is no need to rush into anything. Just take your time to figure it out naturally.  As for thinking genitalia is gross,there are many others who do as well. A person’s genitals may easily identify a person’s gender as a man or a woman, but that doesn’t define a person’s character.

A person’s sexual orientation is a complicated matter, but with time, we can come to understand organically. You should definitely check out this resource packet http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/BisexualityResourcePacket.pdf which has great information about sexuality in general. Trevor Space at www.trevorspace.org is a great place where you can safely connect with others who are also facing similar conundrums, and don’t forget about the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386. Hopefully this letter has resolved some confusion for you but if you ever need any more resolution, don’t hesitate to contact us through any means possible, we will always try to help.

Best Wishes,

Trevor Staff