I’m a bisexual, but I’m not out at school and I have a boyfriend. He is amazing and perfect in every way. Except for one thing. He might be a little bit homophobic. Not mean about it, just uncomfortable with it. I’m considering coming out, and I was wondering how I should tell him, or if I should dump him, or what. I really just need advice. Thanks Trevor.
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That’s so great you are considering coming out! I know how scary it is not knowing what other people will say, but that fear will melt away as you start to embrace who you really are. There are alot of positives to your decision of coming out. For one, your decision can let people in your life know an important part about you. It can also help you feel less alone and help you to meet new friends who are in your position as well. Here at The Trevor Project, we have a social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24. Here, you can meet new people who might be in the same position as you, and it is a great way to meet supporting people. You can find TrevorSpacce at www.trevorspace.org.
Our main goal here at The Trevor Project is to keep you safe and comfortable when it comes to your decision of coming out. Some questions to ask yourself in your decision to tell your boyfriend might be: Are you worried if you told him, would you be unsafe physically or emotionally? If you told your boyfriend, is there a possibility the relationship might end? We here at The Trevor Project could not be more supportive and happy on your decision to come out, but most of all we care about your safety and your comfort level. Sometimes in life, people are scared and uncomfortable about things they don’t understand. There is a great and helpful resource for your boyfriend that may help him understand any questions he may have about what it means to be bisexual. PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) has a great website which is put on by parents who support LGBTQ people and work to help parents and others become more supportive and accepting of their loved one’s sexual identity (www.pflag.org). In addition to the above resources, you can call us anytime, 24/7 about anything in your life. Even if it is just to ask us advice about your boyfriend, please call us! You can always count on The Trevor Project for support and understanding no matter what is going on in your life. Our number is 866-4-U-TREVOR.
We want you to know how proud we are of you in regards to embracing this part of your life. Just as it is important to you, it is important to us as well. Helping your boyfriend understand who you are and sharing this special part of who you are is inspiring and courageous to us. We here at The Trevor Project have your back 110%! Call us anytime if you need more advice.
The Trevor Project