Im lost and confused. im with my girlfriend but i dont know if what im doing is right. i love her but my family doesnt like it and wont talk about it at all with me I want my family to accept me and my decisions. also i dont want to look stupid because im not sure if my gf is competely honest with me sometimes i just dont want to go throught another day of all if this stress. please help me. thank you keep this confidental thank you.
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It’s easy to start feeling lost when you have so much to deal with. But it’s a great sign that you recognize the challenges you’re facing, and that you’re brave enough to ask for help.
It sounds like your first priority should be talking things through with your girlfriend. Healthy relationships are based on honesty—have a conversation with her to make it clear that you need to be open with one another. Talking to your family about your relationship will get easier once you feel more secure in where you stand with her.
In the meantime, try not to be too hard on yourself. Relationships are a lot of work, and you can’t perfect them overnight. In the short run, deal with the stress by taking care of yourself: get your sleep, eat well and exercise. Spend time with the people that make you feel good about yourself; do the things that make you happy. Sometimes just talking about problems makes them easier to face—seek out trustworthy individuals in your life you think you might be able to confide in. And if you’re ever feeling like it’s all just too much to handle, remember you can always call 1-866-488-7386 and talk with a Trevor lifeline counselor about what you’re feeling and experiencing
Remember that you are worthy of love, respect, and acceptance, and you deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated. It may be that this girl isn’t the person for you, and it may take your family some time to come around—if so, that will be their loss. If you focus on making choices you can be proud of, you’ll find things have a way of working out.
Good luck, and feel free to write back.