I dont love myself!!

Question:

I…… Dont know where to start. I just have alot of issues and just need someone to talk to. I’ve been throughso much, and I just feel like I am alone. School is so stressful, and growing up, I was abused, and I dont feel pretty or loved…. I just need someone who i can talk to who’s gonna listen.

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Answer:

Hi Chelsea,

I’m glad that you were able to get out of an abusive environment. It is completely understandable, given your abuse and stress in school, that you feel alone. Many times, when anybody has been through difficult situations or are feeling stressed, talking to a trustworthy person can be very helpful, and I’m glad you wrote to us for help. First, I’d suggest talking about how you’re feeling to anybody you can trust. This can be anyone from a close friend to a school counselor. These people can be a great support network. There are people in the community who are willing to help. Often times, you just have to ask!

If there’s nobody around you that you feel comfortable talking to, askTrevor has a forum called TrevorSpace, where people with similar experiences as you share those experiences and ask for and receive advice. It is a great place to meet others who may be going through what you’re going through. It is a safe place for you to share your experiences, worries, and ask for advice. You can be as anonymous as you would like to be. The link is http://www.trevorspace.org/ . Please don’t hesitate to give it a try.

AskTrevor also has a site called TrevorChat. This chat room is available Mondays and Fridays from 4pm to 10pm in the eastern timezone. This is a place where you can talk to your problems with trained staff, who can then help you find resources near you. Here’s the link: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/chat .

You’re right in saying that school can be stressful, and that on top of not feeling loved can be extremely difficult. If you’re experiencing bullying in school or having difficulty with schoolwork, your teachers and school counselors are there to help you in any of those situations. They can listen to you and point to a number of resources to help you.

Chelsea, please know that your prior abuse is not your fault, and that you deserve to be loved. You are smart to seek out others who you can talk to, and I absolutely encourage you to do so by talking to anybody close to you or the links mentioned above. Please write again if you have any other questions!

Trevor