I don’t want her to think she losing her child because I’m still the same person

Question:

Dear, Trevor
Over the past few months I’ve come out as a transgender male to my mom and she told the rest of the family. Right now I’m still struggling while wanting to live the life I want to (male) and living the life everyone else wants me to (female) but I know what I feel. I feel like me, you know who you are so why must my gender matter. People take it was a joke and it really upsets me. When I bind I feel happy I feel like Spencer my true self. My mom says she accepts, love, and respect me but I don’t believe she really does. I really want to be able to Transtion or get gender therapy but she won’t allow it since I’m “too young” but it’s how I feel. I’m about to enter the 8th grade and I really wanna be able to Transtion into male before HS. She wants me to be both, but I already am. I like girls all over but find boys cute but she wants me to like both not have crush/lust. Is there anyway for her to see that I am who I am. I don’t want her to think she losing her child because I’m still the same person I was before just different sex and gender. Please if you can replay back it would really help.

Sign fellow supporter,
Spencer W.

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Answer:

Hi Spencer, I want to first say to you congratulations on being so
confident
and coming out. It takes a brave person to do that and I can
tell just by your letter that you are very brave. It is great that your
mother has told
you that she loves and respects you. Not many people
have that. It is
understandable that you feel insecure about your
mother’s feelings but talk
to her about it. You explained yourself so
beautifully in this letter that I
am sure you can sit down with her and
say the exact things. Let her know that
you appreciate her love and
understanding but she needs to understand a
little more. Tell her
exactly what you said in this letter about her not
losing her child. Im
sure she needs that. Let her know the reasons why you
want to do this
before high school. But just as much as she should be willing
to hear
you out, you should also hear her out. She is your mother and she
wants
what is best for you. Talk to each other and also listen to each
other
and im sure you will come to an agreement.