I’m gay. I like girls, I always have since I was little, but I started accepting it about 4 months ago. I’m sick of hiding in the closet, and I have decided to come out to one of my brothers. I decided to come out to my family before my friends, because most of them have quite the reputation of being huge blabbermouths. I want to tell my brother, who goes to my school, before, in case it gets around to him through the grapevine. I was wondering if you had any advice about how to tell him? I’m not anticipating a bad response, he is very proLGBT, but I just don’t know how to bring it up…?
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I am very glad that you decided to reach out to AskTrevor. You have the first puzzle piece in place with taking steps to come out. It sounds like you will have a good confidant in your brother, and he will be receptive to how you feel and identify. Coming out can be difficult, even with the right people to support. Taking your time with the decision, and choosing the right time with your brother will make you feel better in the long run. I want to provide you with the link to the Human Rights Campaign website. They have a Coming Out Center tab, that provides a resource guide to coming out. I think this would be a good place to start.
As always, please feel free to reach out to AskTrevor anytime you have a question. I have also attached the PDF for the resource guide, in the case you cannot obtain it virtually.