I think that I’m bisexual

Published Letter #553 - Posted in , , , , .

Question:

Dear Trevor,

I think that I’m bisexual but I don’t want to be bisexual. I’m ashamed I have had suicidal thoughts how can I overcome being bisexual.

Star55

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Answer:

 

First of all, please know that questioning your sexuality and sexual preferences is completely natural.  Many people feel this way at some point in their lives.  I understand that these feelings can be very frightening and confusing, but please know that there is nothing wrong with you.  Being heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual are ALL very natural and normal sexual orientations and there are many resources out there to help you understand your feelings.  Whatever you are feeling is OK, and it is so great that you reached out for help with this issue

If you are having suicidal thoughts please talk to an adult that you trust immediately.  If there is no one that you feel comfortable with, please call the Trevor lifeline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  When you are depressed it can seem like things will never get better, but know that there is hope and that these difficult feelings are only temporary. On www.usreachout.com you’ll find facts about depression by clicking on “struggles with feelings”. If you feel like you may harm yourself please call 911 or get to the nearest hospital emergency right away in order to be safe.  Although it seems overwhelming right now, you are on the right path.  You did a brave thing by reaching out to us and by actively trying to understand the special and unique person that you are.  You are not alone!

On “http://www.bisexual.org you’ll find a lot of helpful information on bisexuality.  If you click on resources, then sexuality-general information, then “Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG” you can find information that may help.  In trying to understand you sexuality, it may help to remember that sexual orientation involves emotional, romantic, and physical feelings of attraction.  It can also help to think about whom you have crushes on and who you fantasize about being with.  I would really encourage you to talk through these questions with someone you can trust – friend, relative, teacher, parent, school counselor.  Also, TrevorSpace (www.trevorspace.org) is the safe, online social networking site for LGBTQ people ages 13-24 and their friends and allies.  It is a really supportive community where you can connect with other people who are going through or have gone through similar situations to your own.  These resources are all really helpful and I encourage you to continue on this brave and exciting journey of exploring the wonderful person that is YOU!