mental bullying and coming out

Question:

I decided to come out to my friends in school around two months ago. Everyone was fine and accepting at first but then as more and more people stated to find out my friends started making sly jokes about my sexuality. These sly jokes became more and more obvious and it was encouraging more people to start talking to me like I was dirt. My whole school knows that I’m lesbian now. Even the teachers,they see I’m unhappy and that every joke they say or every word they call me tears me down,inside and out. I don’t know what to do anymore unless they are physically bullying me my school can’t do anything about it. My headteacher isn’t all accepting of the gay community either as he is very religious christian. I have no one to talk to about this and I feel so alone. I’ve self harmed before and have been doing it quite often lately. My parents don’t know I’m lesbian so I can’t talk to them about it. I’m just so confused and hurt and hate my life. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just need help. They’ve got in my head and now they won’t get out.

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Answer:

Thank you for writing into Trevor. You are so brave and have such
courage to
have come out and to deal with this on a daily basis.
Bullying does not have
to just be physical. Often the worst bullying is
verbal bullying which is
exactly what you are going through and it is
not ok. How do you think your
parents would react to you coming out to
them. If you feel safe, then maybe
you should tell them and tell them
what is going on at school. if not, find
someone in the school that you
think you can talk to like a guidance
counselor or another teacher,
anyone. The key is to let someone know that
this is happening and it is
not ok. If it is that bad in that school, is changing schools an option?
The most important thing is for you to be happy
and to feel safe. You
need to be happy and be able to go to school. I know
you said that the
head teacher is not that accepting of gay people but she is
in charge
and if a student is being bullied, she should do something about
it. You
have nothing to lose by approaching her and telling her what
is
happening to you. The worst that can happen is she ignores you but
then
you wont be in a worst situation. Or maybe she will respond and
things
will change. The most important thing is that you find someone that
you
can talk to and let them know you are being bullied and it needs
to
stop