my feelings

Question:

Hi Trevor:
Sorry to bother with my story but even that I’m 28 I’m confuse with my feelings.

I had a boyfriend for around 3 years and we broke up because he was cheating on me.

But my fear is that I will never love or even trust anyone any more.  It’s been a years since we broke up and I don’t love him any more but the crush that I have is someone totally out of my league and like I said I’m scared to never love again.  Please help me.
Noe

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Answer:

Thank you for reaching out to us.  No matter what age, people have feelings and worries.  It’s okay to reach out and ask for help.

Three years can be a long time of getting to know someone, and it can be hard when the other person is not faithful.  It can take quite a lot of time to heal from that, too.  But don’t give up on your happiness.  You need to focus on what makes you happy first, build confidence in yourself, be who you want to be and know how important you are.  When you feel you are at your best, go out there and get back into the dating scene.

When RuPaul had a show on VH1 back in the 1990s, she used to end the show by telling people to love yourself before you love anybody else.  Don’t be scared to love again, and don’t be afraid to ask him how he feels about you.  If you aren’t confident in yourself, ask yourself how you can be more confident.  What can you do to place yourself in the same “league” as he is?  And more importantly, what’s the best way to ask him out?

Be the best person that you can be, and everyone will notice.

If you have any other concerns or worries, please write back.  The Trevor Project is here for you.

Cordially yours,

Trevor Staff