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Published Letter #2636 - Posted in , .

Question:

Dear Trevor!

 

I have a problem. I am pretty sure that my sexual orientation is straight.  However, if I hear something about Gay Events, I feel a great desire to see event and talk to these people.
Sometimes I think that I might have some bisexual characteristics since I pay attention to girls; not as Lesbians but in a more platonic and innocent way.
I am concerned about my huge interest in gay life.  Help me to figure out what is happening please.

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Answer:

Hello!

 

Congratulations for reaching out to connect with us as you contemplate your huge interest in gay life. It is both natural and normal to question or contemplate sexual orientation and/or gender identity.  So here are a few things that might assist you as you form your thoughts on this subject.  And, whatever you want to call yourself will be absolutely fine.

 

In trying to understand your sexuality, it might help to remember that sexual orientation involves emotional, romantic as well as physical feelings and attraction for people of both genders (bisexual), people of the same gender (lesbian and gay), and people of the opposite gender (heterosexual or straight). It can also help to think about whom you have crushes on and who you fantasize about being with girls, boys or both.” You said you are pretty sure that your sexual orientation is straight but that you might have some bisexual characteristics as you pay attention to girls in a more platonic and innocent way.  This may be a clue. Are you naturally curious about most things in general?  If so, that might be a way to explain your huge interest in gay life.  On the website http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view &id=730&Itemid=177 you’ll find the brochure “I Think I Might Be Lesbian…Now What Do I Do?” This may also help you with your questions about your sexuality.”

 

We also encourage you to talk about your questions with someone you trust-friend, relative, or a counselor of some sort. TrevorSpace is available for support and can help with your questions – “TrevorSpace at www.trevorspace.org. It’s the Trevor Project’s safe, online social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24, their friends and allies. It’s a great supportive community where you can connect with others who might have had or are having the same questions that you’re having about your sexuality/gender identity.” And just remember if there’s no one you feel comfortable talking with, you can always call the Trevor lifeline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor, 24 hours 7 days a week and TrevorChat.  We are always here for you.

Trevor Staff