what should i do?

Question:

i am a bisexual boy whos in a morman family and im afraid to tell them waht should i do?

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Answer:

Feeling afraid to come out to your family is a very normal feeling for LGBT people of all ages.  There’s no set schedule or timeline for this, and it’s a very personal decision that you have the right to make for yourself.

As you consider coming out to your family, keep in mind that families react in various ways.  Many times it is a positive experience for everyone and can unite families and make relationships stronger, something you hope could happen for you and your family.  But there are also negative reactions and relationships can be strained or even destroyed. So it is important to think through your situation carefully as only you can decide when it is best to come out to your family. What is really important is that you are comfortable with your decision and are safe.  You may also want to consider first coming out to a trusted adult – maybe a favorite cousin, teacher, or friend’s parent.  This can give you more confidence in the coming out process and also provide needed support before, during, and after coming out to your parents.

A site that provides more detail on LGBTs in the Mormon church can be found a http://www.affirmation.org/.  I would suggest reviewing the site and reaching out to a LGBT friendly leader in the Mormon community via a local Affirmation chapter.  Additionally more information on LGBT religious resources can be found at http://www.welcomingresources.org/.

If you ever need help please do not hesitate to call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-4-U-TREVOR (1-866-488-7386) and talk with a Trevor lifeline counselor. There is also Trevor Chat where you can go to talk to someone, as well as Trevor Space which can connect you to other LGBTQ youth. You are not alone and we are always here for you!