Where can I meet other Bi girls my age

Question:

Dear Trevor,
Where can I meet other Bi girls my age (14)? No one my age has come out yet and I don’t know! One friend did and I don’t plan to until high school (got left back a year) so how can I date girls? Where can I meet them? Also I have thought I was Bi for maybe 3 years now after I…did some stuff with my straight friend. I wanted to kiss her and I asked her if I could kiss her again but she said no. I really just want to meet someone!

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Answer:

Hello,

Thank you for writing to The Trevor Project. We are here for you and we care about you. You are not alone. Meeting new people can be a scary, yet fun and exciting time in your life. Meeting people may not always be easy, but sometimes the smallest conversations can turn into the greatest friendships. There is no “cookie cutter” way to meet new people, but being open minded and kind can always help. Maybe meeting people with the same likes and interests as you can spark a friendship. Even at 14, I can tell by your letter that you are a smart and brave girl. Getting involved in extracurricular activities in school and around your community can help you meet new people and have fun at the same time!

Dating is something that can follow making friends and meeting new people, but it can also be stressful, what is most important is that you are happy and comfortable with the people you meet, even though meeting good friends can take time. Not everyone you meet has to be a good friend, but it can be nice to become acquainted with a lot of people.

As far as meeting others, feel free to sign up for Trevorspace at www.trevorspace.org; the Trevor Project’s safe, online social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24, their friends, and allies. It’s a great supportive community where you can connect with others who might be looking for people to meet and connect with just like you! Also please remember the Trevor Lifeline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 866-488-7386 if you would like to speak to someone about what you are experiencing. Keep being strong. You are not alone.

Best wishes,

Trevor