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Ask Trevor is a online non-time sensitive, Question & Answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.
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Featured Letter
Dear Trevor,
Hi there, I've been stuggling for awhile now, since I'm afraid I could lose my parents and my friends. Just about two years ago I broke down and told my parents that I was gay. They didn't freak out, but they were disappointed and told me that I could pray for a change. After about a month of feeling...
Andy, 18, SummersidePE
Dear Andy,
First off, I know what it's like to need some comfort, so I'm sending a big internet hug your way. You're awesome and wonderful, and though you may have people or things in your life telling you that you're not, please don't ever think anything different.
Next, I'd really like to commend you for attempting to come out...
Dear Trevor ,
my name is rias and i'm gay , i'm 16 y.o i'm in high school all seems cool around me but since when i get raped by 10 guys everything is changing know and everyone in my school knows that so ... i don't know what to do no one likes me . i...Rias, 16, constantineCON
Dear Trevor,
My name is "Beto" I am a 19 year old gay male. I want to start off by saying that i have used The Trevor Project Foundation once before and it did save my life, even though i attempted to end it all. At the time I felt really alone...Beto, 19, Los AngelesCA
I don't know where to begin with all this really, it's been such a long few years.
I genuinely can't remember a time in my life when I was happy. Sure I can remember times during a day, or a decent few days but in terms of a period during my life, I just...Joe, 20, NottinghamNTT
Dear Trevor, im 21 years old and im still struggling with who I am. I thought by this point in my life i would be able to understand but its like im in the same place i was in high school. I have never spoken to anyone about this and Im pretty sure no one...Jim, 21, CharlotteNC
so I'm not exactly open about my orientation with anyone. Everyone thinks I'm straight. Not the case here, I'm Bisexual. I come from a town called Garden City Ks. right between the north and the south parts of the united states. I say this because kansas...Gary, 16, Garden cityKS
Dear Trevor, I am feminine bodied and attracted to feminine bodied people. I am experiencing a difficult situation that is new to me. This year I joined orchestra at my school because my mom wanted me to make some friends. I did make a few new friends,...Willow, 15, SeattleWA
Dear Trevor, my life is getting harder and harder by the day. I'm out to my family, and to a certain number of friends, but I don't know how to come out publicly. And if all of the people closest to me know...should the rest of my classmates, or teachers...Avery, 18, SumterSC
A couple months ago, I was feeling particularly down. It had been going on for a while but this time I was really depressed; I wasn't eating; I wasn't sleeping; I wasn't really doing anything at all. Nothing in my life had changed recently. None of my...Kasey, 15, GloucesterVA
Dear Trevor,
I don't know what to do or who to trust. I told my best friend (whos a guy) I was gay, and he basically said for me to get out of his life. My parents found out accidently and now they send me to therapy and think they're terrible...Alex, 14, RosemountMN
Dear Trevor,
My mom makes me cry a lot. She's a very strict Christian and hates how I am. She says I'm just confused, but i know i'm not. Do you think there's any way I could get her accept me?Niki, 15, victoriaTX
Dear Trevor ,
my name is rias and i'm gay , i'm 16 y.o i'm in high school all seems cool around me but since when i get raped by 10 guys everything...Rias,16,
Dear Trevor,
My name is "Beto" I am a 19 year old gay male. I want to start off by saying that i have used The Trevor Project Foundation once...Beto,19,
I don't know where to begin with all this really, it's been such a long few years.
I genuinely can't remember a time in my life when I was happy....Joe,20,
Dear Trevor, im 21 years old and im still struggling with who I am. I thought by this point in my life i would be able to understand but its like im...Jim,21,
so I'm not exactly open about my orientation with anyone. Everyone thinks I'm straight. Not the case here, I'm Bisexual. I come from a town called...Gary,16,