HI Allie, Everyone goes through their own process when it comes to undersatnding their sexuality. Having questions is a normal part of that discovery. Sometimes, especially when one's sexuality just begins to emerge, a person can have conflicting ideas or feelings. FInding "erotic potential" in men and women is very common. Sexy is sexy. Noticing a gender's attractiveness, sex appeal, does not determine one's orientation in and of itself. . For many, sexuality is fluid. That is, one's orientation can vacillate over one's lifetime. Recent studies suggest that women experience a greater range of fluidity regarding sexuality than men. Again, these are general statements. In trying to understand your sexuality, it might help to remember that sexual orientation involves emotional, romantic as well as physical feelings and attraction for people of both genders (bisexual), people of the same gender (lesbian and gay), and people of the opposite gender (heterosexual or straight). It can also help to think about who you have crushes on and who you fantasize about being with girls, boys or both. On www.bisexual.org you'll find a lot of helpful information on bisexuality. If you click on resources, then bisexuality-general information, then "Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG" you can find information that may help. On http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=730&Itemid=177 you'll find the brochure "I Think I Might Be Lesbian...Now What Do I Do?" which may help you with your questions about your sexuality. ?” PFLAG’s (Parents, Families & Friends Of Lesbians & Gays) “Be Yourself: Questions for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Youth” at http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Be_Yourself_TT.pdf can be of further help as you try to understand your sexual orientation/gender identity. Remember that there's no rush to figure this out. Trevorspace, at www.trevorspace.org, is the Trevor Project's safe, online social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies. It's a great supportive community where you can connect with others who might have had or are having the same questions that you’re having about your sexuality. ALso, if you have a tursted adult. a realtive, a teacher or school counselor, with whom you can confide, talking can help calrify your thoughts and feelings. Allie, wherever you find yourself on the spectrum of possibilities, your attractions are a natural expression of your sexuality. Gay, straight, bisexual, omnisexual, pansexual....they're all normal expressions of human sexuality.

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