Hi, I found this website after watching "Jack and Bobby." I have skimmed through a few Q&A's and found them to be very helpful.
I enjoy intimate relations with men however I have not accepted myself as being gay. I have supportive friends, and one of my friends has recently come out. He tested the waters for me—I wish to do the same, but I am not ready.
Even though I am not ready to tell the people about my sexual orientation, I wish to find someone to share my time with. I wish I could find that perfect someone who will give me confidence and a reason to expose myself and reveal my identity.
I do not really know what to do. Thanks for your time.
There is no one way or one time for gay people to come out; we all have the right to do it in our own way and at the time that seems right for us. While it is true that meeting someone special gives some gay people the extra courage needed to come out, sitting around and waiting for that “perfect someone” to come along before coming out is probably not the most reasonable plan.
Actually, I would be willing to bet you that you are much more likely to meet “Mr. Perfect” (or at least “Mr. Fine-Enough-By-Me!”) after you come out. Once you truly believe that being gay is not anything to be ashamed of, and that you are a valuable human being regardless of your sexual orientation (which you are, by the way), you will find the strength to reveal this aspect of yourself to others. Plus, the self-esteem and self-confidence that you radiate as a result of this process will automatically make you more attractive and will likely draw others to you. Just give yourself a little more time, Andres.