So I don't know if you can answer my question or not. I've never really done something like this. But my friend is suicidal and has been for quite a long time. He has gone to DT for drug abuse and put in a mental hospital for a couple of months for hurting himself. He sees counselors every now and then, and I'm pretty sure he's property of the state. He went to an adoption home, I'm not sure what it's called, but he stayed there for a couple of months. He does drugs and drinks all the time to help him forget, but when he's not doing them he just hurts, so it makes him want to do it more. I thought that talking to a therapist and going to the hospital to get drug tested all the time he would be okay, and I thought I really couldn't do anything about it, but I can't just sit here and not do anything anymore. He's really a great kid once you get to know him, just not all at the same time. So I guess my question is what can I do to help him? He's tried to kill himself like 4 or 5 times, and I couldn't live without him. He's my best friend, and me not doing anything makes it seem like I think it's okay! All the "professionals" can't help him, so what can I do? I don't want him to go to DT again or foster care somewhere far away. Yes, he has gotten help, but they're just randome strangers. I don't think he gets that they really do want to help him. Well thanks for listening.
Signed,
Ashley, 15, Sandy UT

Dear Ashley,

 

I can tell that you really care for your best friend and want to help him. That is very admirable. It may seem like you’re not helping him, but the fact that you are there for him means a lot and means that you are doing something. Your presence in his life is making a difference, and sometimes that can be enough for someone to keep from hurting himself. Does your friend have a trusted adult in whom he can confide about his thoughts of suicide -- maybe a relative, doctor, teacher, or school counselor? If there's no one he feels comfortable speaking with, he can always call the Trevor Lifeline anytime at 1-866-4-U-TREVOR. If you believe that he may act on his thoughts of suicide, you or he should call 911 or get to the nearest emergency room. His safety is important. I want to commend you, Ashley, for being there for your friend because sometimes people do not have anyone they can turn to when they are feeling lonely, hopeless, helpless, or suicidal. Stay strong!