Hi Ben. I am glad you are starting to figure your sexuality out and at such a young age. You said you have had crushes on both girls and boys and you are sure that it is not just a phase. It is very natural to question your sexuality, but remember that sexual orientation involves emotional, romantic and physical feelings and attraction for both genders. If you are trying to figure out your sexual orientation, just try to see if you have emotional and physical feelings for girls AND boys. No matter what your sexual orientation is, it is normal to have feelings for both genders, or just one gender. You will figure it out the more you date people. You might realize that you like one gender more or you might realize that you truely are attracted to both genders. Either one is fine!

“On http://www.bisexual.org you'll find a lot of helpful information on bisexuality. If you click on resources, then bisexuality-general information, then "Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG" you can find information that may help.

You can also find out more information on
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view &id=726&Itemid=336 where you'll find the brochure "I Think I Might Be Gay...Now What Do I Do?"

It might be helpful to talk to a trusted adult such as a teacher or couselor or even your parents. Friends are also usually supportive and might give you good advice. You can always check out our social networking site at www.trevorspace.org where you can connect with other LGBT youth.

Just remember, your sexuality doesn't make you who you are, it is just a part of you!

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