Coming out as lesbian or bisexual involves many stages. These stages include accepting your sexual orientation and coming out to yourself, as well as coming out to others. You've taken a big step in accepting and coming out to yourself. Coming out to a friend can be a scary experience because we can't be sure how that friend will respond. Will she accept me? Will she reject me? Will she treat me differently? Telling your friend that you're in love with her can certainly add to that fear.

You might want to consider starting out by just telling her you’re bisexual and see how she responds. If she responds well, you might consider telling her of your feelings for her. But, if you take this step, it’s important that you are prepared for the possibility that she will not feel the same way—even if she’s cool with your being bisexual.

In discussing this with your friend, remember that just as you've taken time to think about these issues and feelings, your friend will probably need time to think about them too. Also, keep in mind that the two of you can keep talking about these things and that the discussion doesn't need to end with one talk. If you'd like to talk to someone either before or after speaking with your friend or about your concerns, call our help line at 1-866-4-U-TREVOR (1-866-488-7386). You will be able to speak with someone sensitive to what you are going through who will support you.

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