I need help but there is no one to talk to and no time to call a helpline. What do I do?
I’m so sorry to hear that it’s been hard getting the help you need to deal with the difficulties you’ve been going through. I’m glad you were able to access the Internet and reach out to Dear Trevor for help.
It sounds like things are really tough for you, having no one that you can talk to and no time to call a help line. You show how smart and resourceful you are in accessing the Internet in order to communicate with us and that’s a really good thing because there are a tremendous number of wonderful resources on the Internet that can be of help to you. It sounds like you’re in a really tough situation and it’s important that you get the support you need during this time. We often tell people that it can be very helpful to talk about issues they’re having with an adult whom they trust such as a relative, teacher or counselor at school but from what you say, it doesn’t seem that’s possible for you. If you felt comfortable you might consider talking with other gay young people at school such as at a school Gay-Straight Alliance. Since you have access to the Internet, you can visit www.trevorspace.org The Trevor Project’s online social networking site for LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning) young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies in order to make contact, get support and try to get help with your questions and problems. You can write to Dear Trevor again with specific questions and concerns and we will gladly respond to. You can also get online information at The National Youth Advocacy Coalition (www.nyacyouth.org ) which is a national social justice organization working with LGBTQ young people to strengthen the role of young people in the LGBTQ rights movement. The Youth Guardian Services at www.youthguard.org provides support services on the Internet to LGBTQ and straight supportive youth. Out Proud, The National Coalition for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Youth at www.outproud.org has information to help people understand their sexual orientation as well as gives resources in many areas. Youth Resource at www.youthresource.com is a site for LGBTQ young people that discusses health including sexual health, advocacy, LGBTQ living and peer to peer support.
Though you said there's no time to call a help line if at some point in time you did have access to a cell phone, a phone at a friend’s house or even a payphone you could try calling any of the toll free help line numbers for LGBTQ youth. You might call the GLBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743 for peer to peer support. You can call the Trevor helpline at 1-866-4-U-TREVOR (1-866-488-7386). Our experienced and sensitive counselors are here for you 24 hours, 7 days a week. They would be happy to talk with you regarding your questions and about your need for help. They take many calls from young people who are having all kinds of issues and understand that sometimes it’s really hard to know what to do. They can also provide you with other local resources such as organizations or support groups for youth that may be close to you. There are several nearby resources where you might for help in the Cincinnati and Dayton area. You can learn about the services provided by the Gay & Lesbian Community Center of Greater Cincinnati, 4119 Hamilton Avenue Cincinnati by visiting their website at www.glbtcentercincinnati.com , calling them at 513-591-0200) or emailing them at firstname.lastname@example.org . There is also the Dayton Lesbian & Gay Center at 5300 North Main, Shiloh Church Dayton and you can learn about their services by visiting their website at www.daytonpride.org , calling them at 937-275-3059 or emailing them at email@example.com. If your trouble includes abuse, neglect, or violence, then it would be really important to talk to a teacher or perhaps call the police or the local child welfare agency in order to get help.
Please remember that you don’t have to go through all of this by yourself and that we are always here for you at the Trevor Project.