I'm bi and like three people. One of them happens to be a friend. I know she's not a lez or bi. I want to tell her but not sure how to. One of the other ones knows and doesn't care. He accepts it. The other one doesn't know. I'm not sure that he will accept it. He considers me his buddy. I really need help. Also, I want to tell my family but don't know how. Please help!!!
Please!!!!
Signed,
helpless, 14, na NY

There is no one way or best way to tell someone you like them and/or that you are bi (or gay or lesbian). It depends on your own comfort level with who you are, on your sense of how the other person is likely to respond and on the overall safety of your situation (what kind of negative consequences might there be for you, if the other person doesn’t take this information well?). This last consideration may be especially important to consider when deciding whether or not to tell your family.

Might you feel the other person out about his/her feelings about gay/bi people first, before you decide to tell them about yourself? Is there someone else that knows this about you that you trust and with whom you might talk over your concerns first? What about a favorite teacher, aunt/cousin or school counselor? Of course, as we always recommend, our helpline is always there for just this kind of discussion, if you don’t feel comfortable having it with anyone else.