Trevor, I dont know what exactly is going on with me anymore. Lately i've been questioning my sexual orientaion. I have no clue what to think, i cant tell if i am attracted to my friend(thats a girl). But i know i like having sexual reations with guys. My friend tells me its from all the lesbian influence around me. My biological mother is a lesbian, and so is my childhood friend, and i have aunts and uncles that are gay too. I support my mom and the LGBT community very loudly. I wear a rainbow arm band and "like" and "post" the lgbt news on facebook, i dont really mind if people think or call me a lesbian, i dont know why. Especially because when my friend was accused of being lesbian she was extremely pissed off. I dont know how to figure everything out. Please give me some sort of direction. Sincerly, HMO
Signed,
H.M.O, 18, Sterling IL
Hi HMO, EVeryone goes through a period of discovery regarding their sexuality. Having questions is a normal part of that process. In trying to understand your sexuality, it might help to remember that sexual orientation involves emotional, romantic as well as physical feelings and attraction for people of both genders (bisexual), people of the same gender (lesbian and gay), and people of the opposite gender (heterosexual or straight). It can also help to think about who you have crushes on and who you fantasize about being with girls, boys or both. On www.bisexual.org you'll find a lot of helpful information on bisexuality. If you click on resources, then bisexuality-general information, then "Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG" you can find information that may help. On http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=730&Itemid=177 you'll find the brochure "I Think I Might Be Lesbian...Now What Do I Do?" which may help you with your questions about your sexuality. MAny people believe that sexuality is a fluid expression. That is, attractions may vacillate over one's life. Some people toss labels to hte side altogether. "Love who you love" is their motto. HMO, let your attractions, fantasies, and crushes guide you. Your openness and honesty will serve you well. Your support of the LGBT community displays your compassionate, accepting disposition. There is nothing odd or abnormal about having questions about one's sexuality. Certainly, you will be accepted as you are, a wonderfully open, supportive young woman.