For a long time now, I knew that I've had an interest in guys. I can't get enough of guys. But I'm afraid of what may happen in the future. In some way, I want to be the kind of person who chooses the opposite sex over the same. But the urge for guys keeps overtaking it. I have a dream to be married to a woman and have children but I don't know if it will happen. It's not the fact that I hate my attraction to the same sex, I just would rather prefer to be with a girl instead. because I feel better with them. My mind says girls, but my body says boys. I just don't know what to do.
Signed,
Jay, 14, birmingham AL

 Jay,


First of all, it's completely natural and normal to be questioning your sexual orientation. In trying to understand your sexual orientation, it might be helpful to remember that sexual orientation involves emotional, romantic, as well as physical feelings and attraction for people of both genders (bisexual), the same gender (lesbian or gay), and the opposite gender (straight). It can also help to think about who you fantasize about being with girls, boys, or both. On http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=726&Itemid=336 you'll find the brochure "I Think I Might Be Gay...Now What Do I Do? which may be able to help you with some of your questions. Another option is to go to www.bisexual.org where you'll find a lot of helpful information on bisexuality. If you click on resources, then "Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG" you will find information that may help. TrevorSpace at www.trevorspace.org. It’s the Trevor Project's safe, online social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies. It's a great supportive community where you can connect with others who might have had or are having the same questions that you’re having about your sexuality/gender identity.

 

I hope this helps!

 

All the best,

Trevor