What do I do if I like boys and girls but I can't tell my crush that?
Signed,
Jean, 17,
Flagstaff AZ
Dear Jean,
Thank you for being courageous enough to write me here at Dear Trevor and ask for help. Worrying how others will react to your sexual orientation is something that many lesbian, gay and bisexual people have concerns about because they don't know how people will react and it's so great that you wrote to Dear Trevor for help and support.
Having a crush can be so exciting. You spend a lot of time thinking about the person. You hope you'll see them, be able to talk with them and hope that they’ll have the same feelings for you that you have for them. It can also be scary having a crush not knowing how they feel and worrying if they'll like you once they get to know you. Remember that liking both boys and girls is natural and normal. As far as your crush and telling this person that you like boys and girls, it's something you can talk about if and when you comfortable and safe with. If your crush has questions about bisexuality, they can learn more about it by visiting www.bisexual.org . Have them click on resources, then bisexuality-general information, then "Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG" where they can find even more information that can be of help. They can also visit www.binetusa.org to help them learn more about bisexuality.
It can help to talk about this with someone you trust such as a friend, parent, teacher or school counselor. It can also help to talk with other bisexual young people such as a school Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA), by calling the GLBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743 or by visiting our www.trevorspace.org our own social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies.
You can also call the Trevor helpline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor 24 hours, 7 days a week and speak one of our understanding counselors. Sometimes, it can help to talk things out with another person. Please remember that we're always here for you.
Yours,
Trevor