For the last two years I've been identifying myself as bisexual and I've accepted the fact that it's something I can't change, and that it's something I should be proud of. Most of my really close friends and my mom know and they were really supportive. I'm really happy at this point in my life except that my dad and stepmom think I'm going through a phase. They both found out over a facebook post where a girl I kissed posted about it on my wall. It took my dad a week to ask me about it, and at first he seemed really cool with it but now I'm not sure how he feels. My stepmom just makes offensive jokes about me liking both girls and boys. A couple a weeks ago at dinner my stepmom asked if I was still going through my phase, and I said no because I was tired of the jokes. My dad's response was that he can have grandkids now. Because to them I couldn't have kids if I was in a relationship with a woman. They're really conservative and religious but I know that has nothing to do with it because they're somewhat supportive of the LGBT community but not me. Sometimes I wish I could just tell them that I like girls and I like boys, and there shouldn't be anything wrong with that. But after the jokes and the comments, I don't how I could because every time I feel strong and proud, they make me feel weak.
Hi Kait, Good for you for your self-awareness of your sexual orientation and for being proud! And how wonderful that you have supportive friends and Mom!
It is challenging when someone we love does not accept who we are. You are totally right - there is nothing wrong with liking both girls and guys. But some people just can't accept that. And it is up to you to decide just how much of your personal life you choose to share with them, if they are going to insult who you are.
Keep feeling strong and proud! Draw on the support of your Mom and friends and consider talking with your Mom about how your Dad and his wife are hurting you through their abusive comments.
The Trevor Project is always here for you at The Lifeline (866) 488-7386. If you have not already, you may want to check out TrevorSpace (www.trevorspace.org), our online social community for LGBT youth, where you can talk with other kids about your experiences and seek support and TrevorChat where you can receive live online support from counselors on Mondays and Fridays.