It is really great that you are open to trying to understand more about you and that you're taking the time and asking for help. Your question is really important and I am really glad that you wrote to Dear Trevor for help.
Many people of all ages question their sexual orientation so you are definitely not alone. Some people are sure of their sexuality as children, others as teens while others continue to question this as adults. The one person who can tell you for sure about your sexuality is you. This can take time to time to figure out and there’s no rush but there are some things to think about that may help you as you try to understand this part of you. Being bisexual is absolutely natural and normal. Remember that sexual orientation involves not just physical attraction but also emotional and romantic feelings and attractions for people of both genders (bisexual), people of the same gender (gay and lesbian) and people of the opposite gender (straight). In trying to understand your sexuality, it can help to think about who you have crushes on and who you fantasize about being with, guys, girls or both. On www.bisexual.org you'll find a lot of helpful information on bisexuality. If you click on resources, then bisexuality-general information, then "Bisexuality 101 from PFLAG" you can find information that may help. Some bisexual people have equal feelings for guys and girls, some have greater feelings for guys while others have stronger feelings for girls. Remember that there's no rush to figure all of this out. Try to give yourself the time to go through different feelings and experiences with different people. You'll know in time.

As you try to understand whether or not you're bisexual, it can help to talk with someone you trust such as a friend, parent, relative, teacher or school counselor. If you feel comfortable, it can be really helpful to open up to someone who knows and cares about you. It can also be helpful to talk with other LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning) young people to get support and learn things that helped them understand their sexuality. If your school has a Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) you could attend some meetings. You could call the GLBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743 which is open Monday to Friday 8pm to midnight Eastern Time. They are available to talk to you about anything that you may have questions or concerns about and they can also just lend a friendly ear. You could also join TrevorSpace at www.trevorspace.org the Trevor Project's safe online social networking site for LGBTQ young people ages 13 to 24 their friends and allies. It's a great supportive community where you can connect with young people all over the country.
To talk about your question further, you can always call the Trevor helpline at 1-866-4-U-Trevor 24 hours, 7 days a week. Our understanding counselors would be happy to talk with you. They answer many calls from young people who are trying to figure out their sexual orientation. Please know that you don't have to go through this alone and that we're always here for you at The Trevor Project.

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