I don’t want to call cuz it’s not that big of a deal. So, here it goes: I was raped and molested once that I can recall when I was 5-7 y.o. by my next door neighbor, and then when I was 9-15, by my step-dad. So, I was just wondering: is that why I might be bi? Well, I'm just a little confused, so hit me back, plz. Thank you, much love.
Signed,
Kristin, 17, Wasalia AK
Dear Kristin,

I am so sorry to hear of the abuse you’ve experienced in your young life. That is certainly a “big deal” to have to live with. I hope you are getting some counseling to help you with this.

O.K., as to whether your molestation might be why you “might be” bi: While it makes sense that a female who was sexually molested by a male as a child—or as an adult!—might find it emotionally and psychologically difficult to relate sexually to men later on in life, the sexual molestation does not create sexual desire for women. We at the Trevor Project think of bisexual or homosexual orientation as an attraction to a person of the same gender—not as a fear of someone of the opposite gender.

And if you are still wondering about this, you are absolutely welcome to give our helpline a call to talk about any question you may have about sexuality.

Trevor