I feel like I can't talk to anyone about this...I find that I find guys attractive but I also find girls attractive too and I find myself somewhat obsessing over famous girls and even girls just in my hometown...I feel...confused and I don't know what to do...what should I do?
Signed,
Lauren, 14, Springboro OH

Hi Lauren,

It's great that you have reached out to Trevor for support and know that you can always turn to Trevor when you need to.  It is normal and natural to wrestle with these issues as many people question their sexuality. Please know that you are not alone with the challenge of this question. There’s no rush to figure this out.   You can take all the time you need and with more experience of life, you will likely gain more and more insight into yourself and what fits for you.

 

In trying to understand your sexual orientation, it might help to remember that sexuality involves emotional, romantic and physical feelings and attractions for people of the same gender (lesbian and gay), people of both genders (bisexual) and people of the opposite gender (straight or heterosexual). In trying to figure out your sexuality, it can help to think about who you have crushes on and fantasize about dating, girls, guys or both. It might help to look at the brochure "I Think I Might Be Lesbian...Now What Do I Do?" http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=730&Itemid=177.  You might also find it helpful to check out the American Institute of Bisexuality’s website, www.bisexual.org which has many resources regarding bisexuality.  Please know that all sexual orientations are absolutely natural and normal.

 

In addition to Ask Trevor, The Trevor Project also offers TrevorSpace (www.trevorspace.org) an online social network where you can meet and interact with other teens across the country, make friends and find support from others who are going through similar experiences.  And as always, Trevor's 24-hour Lifeline (1-866-488-7386) is always here should you need to talk to a counselor right away.  A trusted adult (teacher, school counselor, clergy, relative) may also be a resource for you in sorting through your thoughts and feelings.

 

In closing, we want you to know that Trevor is always here for you and wishes you well in your journey!