Hi, Trevor, well, my whole life I've felt like I'm kind of different, but never knowing why. But lately, I feel like that different thing is that I might be lesbian, but you know, I feel sort of attracted (physically) to boys, but just physically, but I also feel attracted to girls, and it's more strong the feeling. When I see movies or shows about lesbians, I can totally picture myself in a relationship like that, and not in a relationship with boys, I feel that, that's what I want for my future, and it's not just a physical attraction to them, my emotions and feelings are focused on girls, it's like I crave find someone who happened to be a girl. Although, I've never been in a relationship before, so I don't know how or what to feel about it, or if this is genuine. I just need some advice. Thanks.
Signed,
Marie, 14, orange CA

Hi Marie, We are glad that you reached out for help in sorting through your questions regarding your sexuality.  You already appear to have a lot of personal insight about your sexual identity.  You should continue to trust what your head and heart are telling you.  You can also talk to a trusted adult; a relative, teacher, school counselor, etc. about your personal exploration. 

 

You wrote that you feel attracted to both girls and boys, but that your emotions and feelings are focussed on girls.  It is not unusual at your age to have physical attraction to both girls and boys.  But as you have already suggested, one's sexual orientation takes into account more than just the physical, to include emotional and romantic feelings.  As you continue to explore these feelings, it might help to look at the brochure "I Think I Might Be Lesbian...Now What Do I Do?" http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=730&Itemid=177.  

 

To talk more about your questions about your sexuality, please know that you can call the Trevor Lifeline at 866-4-U-TREVOR 24 hours, 7 days a week or chat with a Trevor counselor on TrevorChat (http://www.thetrevorproject.org/chat), currently available Mondays and Fridays. They speak and chat with many young people who are trying to understand and accept their sexuality.

In closing, we wish you well in your ongoing journey. Try to keep your positive attitude! Please remember that you don't have to go through this alone as we're always here for you at The Trevor Project.