Hi trevor i think i might be bi because alot of the time i think of other guys sexually but never in a releationship i dont feel i can talk to anyone about this and i was wondering weather this is normal for guys my age also i never have any suicidal thoughts please respond
Signed,
Reallyconfused, 13, Montclair NJ
Dear “Really Confused,”



Well, RC, it’s probably not the case that most 13-year-old boys think of other boys sexually (if that’s what you’re asking), but it’s definitely a common experience for guys—of all ages!—to have sexual thoughts about other guys. Whether or not you are bi (that is, you feel you have the potential of pursuing sexual and intimate relationships with both women and men), is something only you can determine, over time.



As we’ve said before, RC, figuring out what your sexual orientation may be is probably less helpful to you than figuring out how you feel about whatever that sexual orientation may be. If you really have no one you feel safe talking to about all this, please give our helpline a call. Our helpline listeners would be happy to talk to you about this.



Trevor