Dear Ross,



I’m guessing your concern is that if you come out to your family, they won’t love you again. If that’s not your concern, please write us again.



But, assuming it is, you’ve identified the major concern of most gay people when they consider coming out to their parents or family: will they still love and accept me? I can tell you that my experience has been that most families—even those that have a lot of difficulty with the issue at first—continue to love their child and eventually come to accept that child’s sexual orientation.



That being said, no one can tell you if and when and how to come out to the people you love; it’s something you have to decide for yourself. However, as we generally advise at The Trevor Project, your safety should be your first consideration, so if you have any concern at all that your family might react in a way that might put you in jeopardy, you might want to wait until you are older and capable of taking care of yourself, should you need to.



The best recommendation I can make at this point is to call our helpline and talk about your specific concerns about this with one of our listeners. They can help you figure out what is the best course of action for you to take at this time.



Trevor

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