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I've always been comfortable with myself and pretty confident. I've never really had the need for a boyfriend. And I've never really felt like boys were attracted to me because I'm 6 ft tall... I know I'm attracted to boys but I've never really wanted to date one that badly. I've had girl crushes before but I feel like evey girl has those to some degree. But just recently, I've become attracted to my bestfriend. I've started to see her in a different light and I don't know what's going on.. I catch myself looking at her body and wondering what it would be like to kiss her. I've never really felt like this before. She and I have been really close for 9 years. I don't want to weird her out or scare her. Should I just forget about it and hope it goes away? I really don't know what to do... :(
Samantha, 18, Muncie IN
Hi Samantha,
It takes courage to write about your feelings. It can be confusing, but it is important that you know that these feelings are natural; people of all ages and genders go through stages of questioning their sexuality.
It might help you to look at sexual orientation as involving emotional, romantic and physical feelings and attraction for people of both genders (bisexual), people of the same gender (lesbian and gay), and people of the opposite gender (heterosexual or straight). It might also help if you think about who you have crushes on, boys or girls or both.
It's okay to ask for help as you are sorting through your feelings. It may help to talk to a trusted friend or an adult that can understand your feelings. Remember, you are still young, so you shouldn't feel like you need to figure this out all at once.
There are many resources for you to look at for help. You can go to www.bisexual.org and click on Bisexuality-General Information to find more information. I also encourage you to check out www.trevorspace.org. This is The Trevor Project's online social network for LGBTQ youth ages 13-24. This is a safe space for you to connect with other young people with similar questions, and find a supportive network of peers. You'll find that you're not alone and that there are people you can reach out to for support.
Best wishes.
The Trevor Project
