I have known that I am gay for about a year now, but I'm not ready to come out. The problem is I don't know anyone else that is out. This is annoying because I would really like someone to talk to about it and possibly even a girlfriend or something. But how would I go about finding one? I don't want to go to a group or anything because that would involve telling my parents—that is something I don't want to do just yet. And it's not like I don't trust my friends, but I would rather find someone who can actually help me with this problem before I start telling other people. Got any advice?
Signed,
sarah, 15, MA
You live in Massachusetts, which is one of the best states to live in for gay people because gays can legally get married in that state! Is there no “Gay/Straight” group at your school? I’m not sure what you mean when you say “someone who can actually help me with this problem.” To me, this implies that the person would have to be gay and couldn’t be one of your friends. So, if you aren’t yet ready to confide in a trusted friend about this issue, and there isn’t a G/S group at your school, how about a counselor or your favorite teacher? If getting yourself to a gay group or organization isn’t possible at this time, speaking with someone who isn’t gay but is understanding and cares about you (like a good friend) is certainly the next best thing. Of course, you can also call The Trevor Helpline at 866.4.U.TREVOR (866.488.7386) to discuss your options, as well as to ask for possible referrals in your area.