The Best 4-Letter Word I Know

By: Abbe Land, Executive Director & CEO

Shared via The Huffington Post

I have a favorite 4-letter word that packs a powerful punch. No, it isn’t one that TV censors would rush to *bleep* out, nor is it a word that writers replace with %*#’s and [email protected]%’s. However, it does carry a “bad word” stigma that it doesn’t deserve. The word in question is, surprisingly, “Help.”

This simple 4-letter word is loaded with insinuations and implications. Throughout our childhoods, many of us learn that asking for help is a sign of weakness; a loss of pride and respect that implies an inability to overcome something tough in our lives. It becomes a word that is hushed, discouraged, and shamed among our most powerful leaders to our youngest students, and only accepted in the most dire of emergency situations. Yet in truth, it is one of the bravest, strongest words a person may ever say.

Thankfully, for the past 16 years, hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ youth have bravely asked The Trevor Project for help – but we can only guess that this number is a fraction of those who still need us. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning young people often have fewer safe places and people to trust when they need support. Not only that, but fears of being rejected, discriminated against, or blocked from accessing resources can all be strong help-seeking deterrents. Even so, no problem is too big or too small to deserve life-affirming support – and that’s where The Trevor Project comes in.

To show LGBTQ youth that “help” is just a call or click away, The Trevor Project is launching its latest campaign for National Suicide Prevention Month this September. It’s called “Ask for Help,” a life-affirming campaign based on a series of public service announcements featuring young people reaching out to their friends, teachers, parents or counselors when they need help. Through these short videos, available at, we seek to empower youth and let them know that not only is it ok to ask for help – but when you do, suddenly they’re not alone.

Through the Ask for Help campaign, Trevor is urging LGBTQ young people who may be suicidal or in crisis to call the Trevor Lifeline, available at 1-866-488-7386 (available 24/7, 365 days a year) or reach out over TrevorChat and TrevorText (select weekly hours). Counselors are standing by, ready to listen. If you need support but are older than 24, or do not identify as LGBTQ or questioning, we encourage you to contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or through their chat service.

Today, I need your help. During National Suicide Prevention Month this September, please join me and thousands of others as we make sure LGBTQ youth in crisis know that it’s ok to ask for help – and that if they need support, Trevor is here.  Visit and take a Supportive Selfie, share our empowering PSAs, and use #AskforHelp in your posts. You can also read through our “Help Others” section to learn the warning signs of suicide, apply to become a Trevor volunteer, and discover specific tools for educators that can help save lives.

It’s time to shed light on this seemingly forbidden 4-letter word, and shift its reputation from “bad” to “best.” There is so much power behind this one, subtle statement – Help – and you have the power to make sure it’s no longer pushed aside. Share the message; change the conversation; save young lives. All you have to do is help.

To join the Ask for Help campaign, find resources, and spread the message visit

If you or someone you know is feeling suicidal, please call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Donate a Photo: Help Save Lives

The Trevor Project is proud to partner with Johnson & Johnson Family of Consumer Companies through “Donate a Photo,” an app available on Android and iOS devices. From now until November 30, you can upload a photo of your choice to this free app once a day until the program’s end-date. For each uploaded picture, Johnson & Johnson will donate $1 in support of The Trevor Project.

All you have to do is choose The Trevor Project from the “Donate a Photo” list of trusted causes, upload a picture from your camera or take one in the moment, and share your photo through the Donate a Photo gallery. Set a reminder in your phone to upload one picture per day, and help The Trevor Project reach our maximum donation amount of $16,000! Each dollar you help raise goes toward our life-saving mission of preventing suicide among LGBTQ youth.

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Participating in Donate a Photo is just one piece of Trevor’s partnership with Johnson & Johnson, having joined Care with Pride™ earlier this year. Supporters without an iPhone or Android device can also help The Trevor Project through Care with Pride™ by using coupons found at By purchasing these everyday items, you can help support LGBTQ youth in crisis!

Visit to upload your first photo to help save lives!

Sweet 16 Celebration Begins!

By: Abbe Land, Executive Director & CEO

NEW YORK, NY – JUNE 17: CEO and Executive Director Abbe Land of the The Trevor Project arrives for The Trevor Project’s 2013 “TrevorLIVE” Event Honoring Cindy Hensley McCain at Chelsea Piers on June 17, 2013 in New York City. (Photo by Ilya S. Savenok/Getty Images for The Trevor Project) *** Local Caption *** Abbe Land

Can you believe that The Trevor Project has been supporting LGBTQ youth in crisis for 16 years? When our founders first opened our phone lines in 1998, we never imagined how fast we would grow, or how many young people would need our help. To recognize this incredible milestone, we’re celebrating our Sweet 16 – and we hope that you’ll join us!

In honor of the hundreds of thousands of LGBTQ young people The Trevor Project has helped, we’ve set a goal of engaging at least 1,600 new supporters to help continue our life-saving programs for years to come. No one should ever feel alone, and that’s why we need your help to ensure The Trevor Project can always be there for LGBTQ youth in crisis.

Donate to support our Trevor Resource Kits, which bring life-affirming tools to educators nationwide; or, give a gift that helps train our TrevorSpace and TrevorChat volunteers! You can even donate to help pay for a Trevor Lifeline volunteer’s shift.

Thank you in advance for celebrating the brave youth who reach out to us by making sure that The Trevor Project is there for the LGBTQ youth of tomorrow. Every dollar counts!

To support The Trevor Project’s Sweet 16, visit:

“Ask for Help” Offers Crucial Message

This upcoming September is National Suicide Prevention Month, and The Trevor Project is sending out an important message to LGBTQ youth: “Ask for Help.”

Ask for Help is Trevor’s latest PSA campaign that features first-person accounts of young people reaching out to friends, teachers, parents or counselors for help to promote the idea that it’s ok to ask for help when you need it.

It’s important for us to talk openly about how we can prevent suicide, especially when recent tragedies increase our society’s attention of this critical issue. At Trevor, we know that reaching out for help isn’t always easy. In fact, the stigma surrounding mental health can seem paralyzing, especially for young people. If someone identifies as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning, this stigma can be even bigger – especially if they face barriers to accessing help if their family or community has rejected them.

Through Ask for Help, The Trevor Project wants LGBTQ youth nationwide to know that even though asking for help can be scary it is also one of the bravest things you can do. If you have a friend or family member who may be showing warning signs, remind them that you’re there to help connect them to life-affirming resources like the Trevor Lifeline, TrevorChat, or TrevorText.

Taking that first step may be tough, but getting the support you need can be life-saving. Stay tuned for more about Ask for Help next September and start sharing the campaign’s empowering PSAs, available at

If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide please call the Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386 – our counselors are here 24/7. Or, reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Care with Pride™ and Support Trevor

During Pride season, supporting The Trevor Project is as easy as re-stocking your healthcare and personal care essentials! The Care with Pride™ initiative from the Johnson & Johnson Family of Consumer Companies is giving you the chance to redeem specially marked coupons online that will donate $1 to our life-saving work.

The Care with Pride™ campaign, created by the Johnson & Johnson Family of Consumer Companies, connects The Trevor Project, PFLAG, and the Family Equality Council in a unique partnership that focuses on cultivating respect and equality for the LGBT community. In addition, the campaign raises awareness about the health and wellbeing of all youth, and inspires people to “pay it forward” by donating to make a difference.

We are so proud to be a part of this national partnership, alongside these two LGBTQ nonprofit leaders. Visit to learn more about Care with Pride™, redeem coupons that offer $55 in savings, and give your support!

Trevor Joins United Nations Pride Event

As a part of LGBT Pride Month, The Trevor Project is proud to have partnered with the U.S. Mission to the United Nations in an event to commemorate the 45th Anniversary of the Stonewall Riots in New York. Hosted by U.S. Ambassador to the United Nations Samantha Power, this educational experience took place at Roosevelt House at Hunter College in New York, NY on Thursday, June 26

Trevor volunteers, Alyx Steadman (a former leader of the YAC) and Zachary Quinto, both spoke alongside LGBT activist Bill Bahlman and discussed the domestic and international progress we’ve made for LGBT citizens since 1969. However, they also underscored the work left to achieve before rejection, discrimination, and hate are a thing of the past.

“The phones at The Trevor Project still keep ringing day and night,” said U.S. Ambassador Power, after highlighting her commitment to tackle these challenges. “So long as those phones keep ringing, we still have work left to do.”

If you missed the live event, you can walk the recording below.

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We’re thrilled to announce a month-long promotional campaign with Uber: Ride for a Cause. From March 3rd to March 31st, Uber could donate $1 to The Trevor Project for each ride you take in NYC – so this month, giving to Trevor is as easy as hailing a car!

The more rides you all take for Trevor, the better our chances are of receiving an additional $10,000 from Uber! So please, share with your co-workers, friends, and family!

Here’s how to get involved:

1. Apply promo code [TrevorProject] in the Uber app. New to Uber? Sign up with [TrevorProject25] and your first ride is free.*
2. Request an UberX, UberBLACK, or UberSUV.
3. Ride for a cause! For each ride you complete, $1 will be donated to The Trevor Project (excludes uberT).

Questions? Email [email protected]. More details can be found here.

*Up to $25 off. Excludes uberT.


YouTube star and huge Trevor supporter Tyler Oakley is fundraising for his birthday. By donating to Tyler’s Prizeo campaign you’re not only supporting the youth that Trevor serves, but you also get a chance to win a trip to Los Angeles to meet Tyler.


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TrevorLIVE Success!

This December 8th, TrevorLIVE Los Angeles captivated more than 1,200 Trevor supporters at the Hollywood Palladium. We are thrilled to announce that this night of awareness raised over one million dollars for our life-saving mission, thanks to the generosity of our guests.

Special Guest Director Adam Shankman created a magical evening with amazing performers who shared their talent to support The Trevor Project, hosted by long-time Trevor supporter and award-winning comedian Kathy Griffin. The event proudly honored Golden Globe® Award and Emmy Award-winning actress Jane Lynch (Trevor Hero), Toyota (Trevor 20/20 Visionary Award), and young Mormon LGBTQ advocate, Adam White (Trevor Youth Innovator).

During the official TrevorLIVE red carpet pre-show, presented by Toyota Financial Services, Shira Lazar of and Tyler Oakley interviewed celebrity guests and performers for their second consecutive year. You can watch clips online of Jane Lynch, Kathy Griffin, Darren CrissSarah Michelle Gellar, and Chris Colfer talking about how special The Trevor Project is to them. The impact of this evening was clear – because of how important Trevor is to you and our celebrity supporters, #TrevorLIVE became a trending topic on Twitter.

Special thanks to our presenting sponsors, Audi of America and Wells Fargo, and our invaluable event sponsors for supporting this powerful evening of awareness. We can hardly wait to bring the excitement of TrevorLIVE to New York on June 16th!